Menstruation. Periods. That time of the month. Whatever you call it, it’s a natural part of life for many folks, but it’s still surrounded by a fair bit of mystery and misinformation. It’s time to change that. By understanding what goes down during the menstrual cycle, you'll be better equipped to offer support, empathy, and maybe even have a laugh about it along the way.

How to support a menstruator?

Being a supportive ally is about empathy, understanding, and practical help. Here are some ways you can help:

• Listen and learn: Each person’s cycle can be different and there isn’t a “normal”. Take the time to listen to what your menstruator needs and learn about their experiences.

• Offer practical help: Small gestures like running errands, offering a heating pad, or stocking up on their preferred period products can make a big difference.

• Be empathetic: Acknowledge their feelings and symptoms without judgment. Sometimes just saying, "I'm here for you" can mean a lot.

  
  

Questions it’s ok to ask

• “Do you have any specific symptoms I should be aware of?”

• “Are there any particular foods or drinks that help you feel better when you’re experiencing these symptoms?”

• “Are there any activities or exercises that help you feel better or worse?”

• “How does your cycle affect your daily routine?”

• ‘How can I best support you?”

• "Is there anything I can do to make you more comfortable?"

• "Do you need anything from the store?"

• "How are you feeling today?"

• "Is there anything specific you prefer to use or do during your period?"

• "Would you like to talk about what you’re going through, or would you prefer some quiet time?"

Questions NOT to ask

• Why are you so moody – what’s wrong with you?

• Are you on your period or something?

• Is it that time of the month again?

• Why do you need so many period products? Why don’t you use [specific product]?

• Can’t you just take some painkillers?

• Aren’t you used to it by now?

What is the menstrual cycle and how can you support each phase?

The menstrual cycle is a natural and essential part of reproductive health, typically lasting about 28 days but this varies from person to person. It is divided into four distinct phases, each characterised by specific hormonal changes and physiological events. These phases are:

Menstruation (Bleeding)

• What's happening: The uterus sheds its lining, causing bleeding. Hormone levels are at their lowest, leading to physical and emotional discomfort.

• Support: Offer empathy and understanding for common symptoms like cramps and fatigue. Help with chores or offer comfort items like heating pads.

  
  

Follicular phase

• What's happening: The body prepares for ovulation with rising estrogen levels, leading to increased energy and improved mood.

• Support: Recognise and appreciate the increase in energy and mood. Be supportive of any irregular symptoms like severe headaches.

  
  

Ovulation

• What's happening: The egg is released, marking peak fertility, with a surge in LH and peak estrogen levels.

• Support: Be aware of possible mild discomfort or spotting. Show understanding if symptoms are more intense than usual.

  
  

Luteal Phase

• What's happening: The body prepares for a possible pregnancy with increased progesterone, leading to PMS symptoms.

• Support: Be patient and supportive of mood swings, cravings, and fatigue. Offer to help with tasks and provide emotional support.